If I were to answer the great parenting question, what to expect when you’re expecting (twins)…I’d say, “expect the unexpected!” Before you have twins, you can read all the books, blogs and listen to all the advice you can, but nothing really prepares you for that first day with your twins. My first day with my now 3 year-old girl/boy twins involved lots of joy, concrete, tears, excitement and uncertainty. Okay, that is quite wide ranging on the spectrum of things. Let me go a bit more into background and detail.
After a week in hospital, we had a scheduled cesarean in the early afternoon. All went fine with the delivery of the twins, however, due to my wife’s recent pre-eclampsia, she lost a lot of blood during the procedure and needed two blood transfusions. This really knocked her back, and was very understandably a bit out of it for the first five or six hours. I had to be, and was happy to be, very hands on during this time. Between the cesarean and transfusions, I had to play a very active part in helping my wife with the early requirements of the twins. This included handing her each baby for feeding and skin-to-skin contact, me doing all the nappy changes and trying to help calm the twins down when they were crying.
We were really fortunate with the hospital we had the twins at as it has one of the best twins and multiples units in the country. They gave us our own room (unheard of) and I was able to stay the night. While this may seem fancy and quite easy, I can assure it wasn’t. There was no chair for me to sit on, rest on, let alone sleep on. I slept two nights on a hard concrete floor, but to be able to be there, support my new twins and my wife, it was all worth it!