The Four Things to NOT Ask A Single Father of Twins

 

So, I am a single father. I wave my flag of solitude not as a means of garnering the attention of the ladies looking for a pre-started family nor do I wear the single dad shirt as a badge of honor. It is just a fact.

I am a single father.

I have twins.

I am a single father with twins. Take a second to let that sink in.

 

Now that you’ve let all of that marinate for a bit (and before you open your mouth with a machine gun of questions firing away from your mind that you just NEED the answers to) let me lay some ground rules.

 

In fact…I’ve made you a handy guide.

 

 

Four Simple Things NOT to Say to a Single Father With Twins.

 

  1. Don’t ask us where the Mom is. I have NEVER seen a mom go up to another mom to ask where the Dad is, so why are we any different? We showed up to the parenting arena, recognize us as a parent. Asking us where the Mom is is like asking for a well done filet mignon at a steak house.
  2. “Are you going to have more?” Is not a valid question.  Do you mean will we get laid EVER again? Probably not, but don’t rub in. (Pun intended.) I don’t speak for all single Dads when i say that, yes, I would love to have more children later on in life. After all, I am the last remaining male of my family’s name and the Lord blessed me with daughters. Once they turn five there will be a Spartan like selection process for my heir.
  3. No, we never get a break. Ask any stay at home or working parent. Breaks are for smokers. No matter what the day brings, our serenity is the blink that happens when the kids go to sleep. Then it’s back at it again. Cooking. Cleaning. Damage control. No matter how hard we try and focus on our career, the main focus is always on the kids.
  4. Asking what we do for respite is also a bad idea.  There comes a time, that’s all too frequent, where I just  give up.
  • I let the laundry pile up.
  • Maybe I ignore the dishes.
  • I order in.
  • On goes the T.V.
  • and I just veg off of social media.

Single parents with twins have very limited social lives. It’s not like our friends are chomping at the bit to get involved with the daily chaos that is our lives.  Instead, we live vicariously through re-sharing news scares on social media and re-posting motivational quotes.

So there you have it.

A mild glimpse into our world. It’s not always pretty, but it’s ours. Now that you have these questions answered for you, maybe you can do me a favor?  When you run into a single father, you can start off by actually asking a question we’ve been waiting to hear:

 

“How Can I Help?”

 

What are some things you wish people would never ask you? Tell me us the comments!

Austin Bennett

Austin Bennett

Austin is a single father and photographer based out of Honolulu, Hawaii. He enjoys full time gathering while also building his photography business Sapphire Portraiture.
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Austin is a single father and photographer based out of Honolulu, Hawaii. He enjoys full time gathering while also building his photography business Sapphire Portraiture.

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