Do you have to get her a push present?

For some reason, we’ve demonized the idea of getting a congratulatory gift for new moms after delivery. Screw it. Get your wife a freaking push present, dads.

 

What’s a push present? It’s a small but thoughtful gift you get the woman who just went through labor to give birth to your son or daughter.
The baby is not to be confused with a gift. You’ll hear that. “Why does she need a gift? Isn’t the baby gift enough?” The baby is a miraculous addition to the family. A show of appreciation does not poop on you. Your wife doesn’t need a gift.

 

But you know what? You don’t need Christmas gifts, either. It’s just fun to get. And Christmas is as commercialized as it gets.

 

 

Things that are over-commercialized:

Christmas: Although I do enjoy seeing “Keep the Christ in Christmas” stickers on cars parked at the mall on Black Friday.
Easter: Not that anyone minds when they are eating a bucket of chocolate bunnies.
Valentine’s Day: You want to talk about commercializing a display of love? Jewelry store commercials for Valentine’s Day make it seem like your wife will divorce you for anything short of a 10 karat necklace. Side note: It took me about a decade to realize “Every Kiss Begins With Kay” works on two levels.
Presidents’ Day: Whose sole purpose is to give you half-off mattress sales, when we all should be pausing to reflect on the great legacy of William Henry Harrison.

 

Things that people say are over-commercialized but actually are fine:

Giving birth: Yes, some people think that the media/businesses promoting the idea of a push present for something as natural as giving birth is over-commercialized. Push presents have become a thing in the last decade or so, and it’s causing much wringing of hands and gnashing of teeth. Moms shouldn’t expect a present. Dads shouldn’t be asked to give one. That’s the argument.

 

 

You know what? New moms have earned a push present much more than I have “earned” a Christmas or birthday gift. No one bats an eye at giving out those.

 

The Case For Push Presents

-Maybe your wife wants a small material gift for doing all the hard work in labor, buy her a freaking gift.
-If your partner thinks it might be nice if she got a little something for not seeing her ankles anymore and then passing a placenta out of her vagina like a slab of tableside prime rib at Texas  Roadhouse, get her a necklace.
-If the woman you love mentions a thing that would make her really happy to get and you’re watching her sweat through hours of labor only to….

 

 

Excerpt from a post on Instafather originally published on April 6th, 2015

Andy Shaw

Andy Shaw

Andy Shaw is a dad of three toddlers, including a 3-year-old boy and twin one-year-old girls. He reacted to hearing the news of twins with, "Wait, what?" Andy is a parenting columnist, keynote speaker, and upcoming author. He writes about life as a new dad, including helpful suggestions, on instafather.com He lives in York, PA with his wife, where they sleep very little.
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Andy Shaw is a dad of three toddlers, including a 3-year-old boy and twin one-year-old girls. He reacted to hearing the news of twins with, “Wait, what?” Andy is a parenting columnist, keynote speaker, and upcoming author. He writes about life as a new dad, including helpful suggestions, on instafather.com He lives in York, PA with his wife, where they sleep very little.

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