“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.” Dale Carnegie ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People‘
The quote made me think of some recent news articles i’ve been paying a lot of attention to lately. Well, not really news items, but more rants and raves by some parent influencers. About a month ago, a video surfaced on Today Parents. It was of two women comedians, in a car, talking negatively about their husbands. It garnered a fair share of responses from men (along with some great replies from women who came to our rescue).
Shortly afterwards, Parents.com asked the question, “Should Men Be Praised For Cleaning”, and reposted a video of another Mom, (also, ironically, in a car) who was up in arms about her husband wanting approval for tasks he did around the house.
I get that not everything couples do to maintain their households is 50-50. But, is it our fault that this woman’s hubby is still living in the ’40s?
Parenting is tough.
Parenting twins can seem almost impossible sometimes. Do you know what adds an additional challenge? Being shamed by people who are supposed to be your allies. Prejudice is alive and well in the World today, and there’s always someone pointing out the differences between us. From the color of our skin and where we are from, to who we believe in and our sexual orientation. I never imagined that there would ever be a time when men were the subject of this finger-pointing.
The most surprising thing is where this “breaking news” was shared. Both forums are PARENTING sites. Places where not just Moms or Dads go for information, but where they both turn to for help and advice. Hey…if you want to get up on a soapbox and complain about your spouse…more power to you (for the record…we don’t advise it). It should just not be shared on a forum that is supposed to be aiding parents, and treating them like equals.
As one writer put it, “Moms have been shamed for years. Working or not working, breastfeeding or not, disciplining or not disciplining, and the list goes on.” So is it now our turn? Read writer. Jeff Jackson’s take on it by clicking the button below.
Tell us what you think in the comments. Should all Men be shamed because of what a few do?