Stop Trying to be a Perfect Parent

There’s a certain irony in writing a site about being a new dad while currently being a new dad.

 

You can become an unwitting subject of the very thing that you write about.

Like, say, the classic new parent trap of having no time to do anything.

Remember being able to just walk out the door? Now you’re grabbing a car seat, diapers, the baby (don’t forget the baby), a bottle, another diaper because the baby blew out theirs on the way out, and maybe even the keys.

 

new dad, old dad, not perfect dad.
“The task of looking for answers starts with realizing you may never find them.” -anonymous

 

With three kids under 3 including six-month-old twins, man … I laugh at how I used to think I was busy with one baby. The past few weeks? Finding time has been impossible.

*Pause*

No joke: The second I wrote “Finding time has been impossible,” the sleeping baby I had on my chest woke up.

The. Second.

The irony is not lost on me that I had to take a four-hour break from writing this post because the small window of time to write it was swallowed up by babies who are the subject of a post about only leaving small windows of time to do anything on my own.

Here’s the truth: Writing about being a new dad doesn’t mean I have all the answers. It doesn’t mean I magically have hours of time to myself, that my kids go down right away at night and sleep all night, and that I never have days where I basically want to lock the kids in a room, get in my car, and drive far away.

 

I’ve got a lot of good dad skills. I can hold my twin girls in their car seats in one arm and my toddler and their lunch boxes in another. I can steam clean three floors’ worth of…

 

 

 

You can find more great wisdom from Andy Shaw here.

Andy Shaw

Andy Shaw

Andy Shaw is a dad of three toddlers, including a 3-year-old boy and twin one-year-old girls. He reacted to hearing the news of twins with, "Wait, what?" Andy is a parenting columnist, keynote speaker, and upcoming author. He writes about life as a new dad, including helpful suggestions, on instafather.com He lives in York, PA with his wife, where they sleep very little.
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Andy Shaw is a dad of three toddlers, including a 3-year-old boy and twin one-year-old girls. He reacted to hearing the news of twins with, "Wait, what?" Andy is a parenting columnist, keynote speaker, and upcoming author. He writes about life as a new dad, including helpful suggestions, on instafather.com He lives in York, PA with his wife, where they sleep very little.

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