I have five year old twin girls who started school full-time last September. Prior to starting school they attended the nursery that is part of their primary school. This is something I felt was important as they were only four years old and it was the first time that they were not with mum or dad. I truly believed that they would be able to offer comfort and security to each other whilst they were away from their parents.
The question when they moved to their first year of full-time education was: Did we want the girls to be in the same classroom?
The school had no rules about twins staying together, which was a relief. We really didn’t want the decision taken away from us. Many schools in our area split twins up. The parents don’t get a say in the matter.
The decision was made between my wife and I. We really felt that the girls offered each other security – especially during the settling in period of the first few months of school, when everything is all new. The experience can actually can be a little bit frightening, especially to a 5 year-old.
My twin girls are now about two thirds of the way through their first year of full-time school and of course they have changed so much. It’s left me wondering, do we keep the girls in the same class next year? I’m sure if we request that they are split, the school would accommodate us.
The girls outside of school are inseparable and as they get older, they continue to play together and make up games together. They play together for hours, immersed in each other’s company. In my opinion, keeping them together in school only strengthens their very unique bond.
I have noticed that they do sometimes come home and tell me that one wouldn’t play with the other because they were playing with a different set of friends. Splitting them in school would probably eliminate this. It may also make it harder to make friends with other children. I think this could possibly have a negative effect, especially if your child is a little on the shy side.
They could easily be wandering around on their own.
In the early days, I feel there is nothing to be gained from splitting them up. From the moment they entered the world every milestone they’ve reached they’ve done together. Being in the same class in school is like a security blanket for moments when they need somebody.
Later, splitting them up into different classrooms may help to form an element of independence. It will also help them learn to form friendships for when they’re not be near each other.